Anxious, Excited, Nervous, Happy, Scared, Emotional
…. All the emotions that I experienced continually leading up to the visitation. December 2nd at 2 pm was a very monumental day in my mind. It was the day that the boy who was brought to me at 2 days old would see his mother for the first time in 3 weeks and it was a day that marked my very first visitation experience as a foster parent. My mom was able to watch my boys at home and a friend of mine volunteered to go with me to which I am so glad because it took a lot my feelings down to a normal level.
2pm had came and went, it was now 2:05 and my nerves were getting the best of me…mom walks in….whew…I was relieved. I immediately take baby and place him in mom’s arms. The bond between a mother and their child is unforgettable and undeniable. An infant who has not seen his mom since he was 2 days old immediately locks eyes with her and was overcome with peace and calmness. I was truly witnessing our Creators masterpiece and how perfect he has designed each and every person. After waiting around FOREVER so mom could do some paperwork, I instructed mom and her entourage (she brought 3 other people with her!) that the bottles and diapers were in the bag, feel free to use anything in there. I also handed a book of pictures I put together for her that one of her “people” quickly grabbed and started flipping through.
As I left I felt relief knowing I would be back and also knowing I would have a few hours to head to the mall (which would NEVER be possible with 3 children 5 and under) to get my 5 yr old some new shoes (cant believe the wear on shoes once a kids start school…sheesh). 4pm was nearing and so we headed back to pick up the baby.
I thought I would jump out, go in, load him up and go. Not the case… not the case at all. I walked in and mom and crew had the look of doom on their faces. I gave them some time and did not rush them. I let mom have complete control of the situation as I kindly encouraged her to put the baby in the carrier. This was overwhelmingly emotional and heart breaking. I tried to hold it together but I couldn’t. With every “this is so hard” “I will miss you so much” “They’ll take good care of you” repeated by mom over and over again I couldn’t take it; I lost it. I cried and I gathered, I cried and I gathered. Mom reached over, gave me the biggest and longest embrace and we were instantly connected. Upon many “thank you’s” and “you’re such a blessing” I felt honored to be the caregiver for this little one. It was difficult to cut this goodbye off but by now it had turned into 20 minutes so I had to do something. I started to pick up the diaper bag, encourage the mom that we will be back next week and told her to take care of herself.
What an emotional event! I didn’t know what to expect but what took place was a good “first visitation” experience. God had His hand on everybody there. I am not clouded though by this “good visitation” because after-all, there is a reason mom does not have her baby. I will continue to pray for her and pray for baby and that the plan God has for them will be evident.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” Jerimiah 29:11
Today while reading, these verses stuck out to me and I am encouraged to learn and apply them to my life:
:15 But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive you.
:21 Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will be also.
:24 No one can serve two masters… You cannot serve both God and money.
:27 , 34 Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? 34 So Don’t Worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today. “
:31-32 So dont worry about these things, saying, “what will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear? 31 These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers but your heavenly Father already knows your needs.
:8 For everyone who asks receives
:12 The Golden Rule…Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you.
:20 Yes, just as your identify a tree by its fruit, so you can identify a person by their actions
Although we are not perfect we can strive to be more like Him by applying scripture to our lives.
Two of the most amazing and creative people I know threw an Alice and Wonderland themed bridal shower at my house for one of my dear friends, Kassandra. It’s all in the detail, detail, detail…. Debbie & Salynn you are both amazing! Check out the pics
Our precious baby boy, Dean, turned 1 on November 23rd and we can’t believe how fast he has grown. He is such a sweet and amazing boy and we did not spare anything to throw him the most amazing birthday party. Take a look at our ‘Very Hungry Caterpillar’ party.
Made some really cute hooded towels for a friend of mine who is having twin girls in November. Here is a step by step…
Cut a hand towel in half then fold back the “decorative” edge about 2 1/2 – 3 inches and sew. You can add a ribbon or embellishment because this will be the top of the hood.
Hand towel cut in half and decorative edge sewn
Fold hand towel (good sides together) length wise and sew.
Sew a seam where pins are inserted
Open towel and fold down making a “cone” shape
Sew cone about 3 1/2 inches down creating a “flat top” cone. Once sewn, cut off the top part of the cone making a straight edge.
Sewn & Cut
Time to sew the hood onto the towel. Fold large towel in half and lay the hood (inside out) on top of the large towel with edges lined up together. Sew the two towels together following the edge of the hood to the large towel… hopefully this is making sense. Whala… you have your hooded towel. Please let me know if you have questions. Sorry the pictures aren’t the greatest.
This pic is just to demonstrate where to put the hood. You need to turn the hood inside out before you sew… see next picture.
Sew where pins are inserted
Follow and sew the hood entirely onto the towel
Two years ago we bought a brand new “fancy” washer and dryer set from Whirlpool thinking we were making this really great investment and we would have clean clothes for years to come… WRONG! We were scammed… here we are stuck with a broken washer that is going to cost $700 just in parts to get fixed!! What the heck, right?! Whirlpool is scamming people and I can say this because the washer we had before this one had been fixed three times for this very problem… shame on us for buying the same washer thinking our last one was just a “lemon”. Bottom line… Byron found out that the part was warrantee for 2 years since we bought it from Costco (I ❤ Costco) and it broke on us 1 week before expiration so parts were free. Here is a time-lapse of Byron taking apart our washer.
Can you believe it?!
Have you received your mortgage from Edison this month? We have! If our regular mortgage wasnt enough Edison has the nerve to send us an additional house payment… oh wait…. never mind… that’s just our electricity bill! What in the world?! I couldn’t believe it… $500 for ONE month of electricity. Things have got to change!
We are doing a few things to reduce our bill but the most immediate is our new whole house fan. Byron installed this fan himself and one night we had our house down to 69 degrees! Yay! Go Byron. It set us back about $300 bucks but we saved $$ in the labor because luckily Byron will work for sweet tea and PB & Js. Here is the video from his project just in case you want to install one for yourself:
P.S. If you get motion sickness then get a trashcan because the video is not steady as Byron is panting and sweating because our Edison bill prevented him from turning on the air for a week and it was a really tough job. Enjoy!